Quotes to inspire self care
We see lot's of inspirational quotes on social media. Sometimes, they are of thought provoking messages, like:
\u200bWhich is true - if you put yourself last, others are likely to put you last too.
Should people respect you and hold you in high esteem anyway? Yes. Do they? Nah, so you need to show them how it's done, and that you won't accept anything less
\u200bBut some that don't seem to have been thought through properly, and can have the opposite effect and make people feel worse.
I see so many quotes about that are bossy! You know, the ones that say 'always, never, don't, should', because they act as though we have one size fits all lives. They don't take anything else into account.
Take this quote, for example:
'Love like you've never been hurt'.
Is that good advice? I say no, because it's not been thought through.
It doesn’t take into account your personal circumstances, for example, if you've suffered abuse at the hands of your parents, or have been bullied, or have had your heart badly broken will find it difficult to achieve emotional intimacy because you've been let down.
Telling someone who's been dumped for someone else to ‘love like you've never been hurt’ is ridiculous. The only good thing to come from this type of intense emotional pain is chance to learn from the experience:
Did you ignore your intuition telling you something wasn’t quite right?
Did you ignore difficulties in the relationship due to fear – fear that if you bring them up, it will make things worse?
Did you become complacent within the relationship - taken it for granted?
Did you find it hard to communicate your wants and needs?
By exploring what happened fully - and I mean gentle exploration, not beating yourself up about supposed 'wrongdoing' - and gaining insight it means you're in a position to protect yourself in the future.
And being unable to 'just love again' might make you feel ‘damaged’, like there's something wrong with you for feeling cautious about giving your heart again rather than it being completely normal to want to protect yourself
Some people stumble from one destructive relationship to another without learning from their experiences, repeating behaviours and getting hurt time after time.
Surely it's better to hold back a little, get to know the potential new partner before throwing yourself in hook line and sinker only to be hurt again?
Learn from your experiences, and protecting yourself. Be open to love, but love yourself enough to take care of your heart.
Oh, and the 'dance like no one is watching' isn't such a good idea either...
The best self care quotes
There are some amazing quotes which really resonate. I currently have the quote 'It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not', as my desktop wallpaper, which helps me when I'm having an 'I can't do this' day.
So here are some inspirational quotes I particularly like about self care: \u200b
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